You know how when you’re a kid and you watch adults on television / real life and it seems like they have everything figured out?! Then you grow up and realize that adulting isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
I had big plans for my life. I always said that by the age of 25, I would be a millionaire with a just as equally rich boyfriend. I’m going to be 25 next year and still no boyfriend or million dollars. But you know what I do have? A thriving business, an almost second one, and tons of amazing memories. I may not be where 10 year old Becca wanted to be at this point, but I’m loving life so far.
I’ve always been the type to expect a lot out of myself with unrealistic goals and then get mad when I can’t achieve those. What I didn’t know when I was younger, was that success comes in different forms. Becoming a millionaire with a private jet isn’t the only form of success. And getting to that desired success IS NOT a straight line and I learned that the hard way during college.
The summer after my college freshman year, I took 2 summer classes. One was a science class everyone had to take and the other was for my major, apparel one. Basically, we sewed for 2 hours and let me ya, I HATED it. I love fashion, but I wasn’t a design emphasis. I was a merchandising emphasis, aka styling, visual design, etc. I just don’t have the patience to make clothes. I had had this professor before (the one that taught apparel one) and I can tell you that I def wasn’t her favorite student. I’m not sure what it was, but she just did not like me. I think it could have been because in a class setting, I don’t always raise my hand to answer questions in class. I have a hard time paying attention, so I was doing all I could just to focus. lol
I was already having a tough summer because I was confused about my career path, where I fit in, and feeling a bit lonely because all my friends had new boyfriends so they were spending all their time with them.
I remember coming home from class that day, walking in the door of my dorm room and falling to the floor to cry. In class earlier that day, my professor (the one who disliked me) brought me into her office and told me I wasn’t cut out for this career path and should just give up and change my major. She also told me, “I’m not sure if you think you’re better than everyone else or what.” TOTALLY not sure what she mean’t by that because I got along with everyone in class.
That moment in her office completely broke me. I remember how empty and devastated I felt inside. It was the worst feeling ever to be told, “you suck. now give up.” I let that meeting in her office get the best of me for so long. I let it get into my head and for the longest I thought, “you know what, she’s right. you suck at everything. give up now. go home.”
it was at that moment I realized something had to change and that something was me. I needed to figure out my goals / dreams and do everything in my power to achieve them and not let ANYONE stand in the way of them.
So I’m here to tell you: Life is going to suck sometimes. You’re going to have bad days, but you’re also going to have amazing days. Success has different meanings for everyone. You could be the person to become a business owner millionaire with 6 cars or you could be a person who works for someone else forever, but are the happiest person doing that. Just know that success has different meanings. The path to YOUR success won’t be a straight line. You’ll mess up sometimes, get rejected, and will even fail. You may even want to just give up and guess what? That is OKAY. It might seem like this is only happening to you, but trust me EVERYONE feels the same way. Have a pity party for a day aka watch Netflix and eat your favorite food, but after that 24 hours, get over it and get back to your dreams / goals!
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