If you’re single, then you how annoying it can be to get asked the SAME questions over and over. Family reunions, visits to your hometown, weddings, etc. “Why are you single? When are you going to get married? Are you still single? Found anyone special yet?” Makes me cringe every time.
Honestly I never really know what to say when I get asked that. “Ummm I don’t know Brenda, maybe I’m just single?”
I’ve been single for 5 years. My last relationship was a senior in high school. Of course I talked / went on dates with guys in college and when I moved to Vegas, but it never really went anywhere. I’m kinda over the whole dating apps thing, so forever waiting to find at Target. ha A girl can dream though, right?!
Here’s really why I’m single: I don’t want to get into another relationship or start talking seriously with a guy who just isn’t right for me. I spent so long in college falling for the wrong guy. I kinda had a thing for athletes, but unfortunately most (or at least the ones I talked to) are fuckboys. We would take for weeks / months, I would get attached only to be disappointed when it either didn’t go anywhere or they treated me terribly. I used to get some upset at the fact that everyone around me was in happy relationships and I was single another year, but for the past 2-3 years, I’ve actually been quite content for it. I’ve been working on myself, improving my confidence, my career, exploring this new city / coast I live on, and just honestly living my BEST life. I think it’s super important to be content with yourself and being able to be alone before jumping into a relationship. I know people who can’t stand to be alone and because of that haven’t had many successful relationships. *LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU TRY TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE*
Lastly, I just feel like when I find my person, I’ll just know. It’ll feel like everything is as it should be and I won’t have to force it. I feel like it’ll be like when I find the perfect pair of shoes…you just have to have them because it feels right. Kinda a weird metaphor (LOL), but you get it.